Warning: Do Not Put Your Faith in Science

Why do Christian apologists keep saying this? I know very few former Christians who could honestly point to science as the thing that shook their faith. Most people hardly think about, or even understand the most crucial debates between theologians and scientists; it’s enough that someone on their side has an argument to offer at…

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Slippery Slope

My thoughts belong to me alone, and I refuse to feel guilty about how they might hurt others. My words and my actions can and do have consequences, but my thoughts are how I sort it all out. And I believe the guilt I feel over what runs through my mind in any given moment…

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Losing Faith in God Was the Easy Part

When you believe in God with all your heart and mind, you cannot doubt him. When you first question the actions and words coming from your own flock; or even the words of the Bible—still, the question of God’s existence is never on the table. Even during those fleeting moments when you catch a glimpse…

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Mothering Without Faith

I didn’t think I would be a mother. As a newlywed I did want children someday, but not any time soon. That was something for the future. And when you’re twenty, that future exists in a whole other lifetime. It’s funny, because I do feel as if I have lived many lifetimes since then. The longer you wait, the…

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No Flowers

It was on this day in 1909 that an unusual funeral was held in the small town of Ada, Ohio. William H. Morrow, a Baptist minister-turned-atheist, had carved out a respectable name for himself among his neighbors. He had offered his services as Health Officer for twenty years, free of charge; and he was President…

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Good and Worldly

The Christian faith teaches that we are sinful by nature and only God is good. If he didn’t work through us to reveal his goodness, where would that leave us? On our own we are only capable of evil. Humility and self-loathing would be too great if it were not balanced by the belief that God is working through us…

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A Fool At Heart: Believing God’s Not Dead

I know more than a few good, intelligent people who are Christians. Some of them have let their own emotions get the better of them. I have friends who cannot bring themselves to talk to me because I write about losing faith. I read posts by Christian bloggers who seem to have lost focus on…

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Does My Lack of Belief Sound Crazy to You?

There is a theme I see running through Christian posts about atheists, and it always seems to come back to a lack of understanding about how differently two people can see the world. It’s all subjective…. What inspires us. What makes sense. What gives us purpose. We don’t all agree on these things, and many people…

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Jesus: A Limited Time Offer

Last week I visited a church for a work-related purpose. I was still sitting in my car making some notes when the man I was there to meet suddenly appeared next to my window. After introductions he handed me a tract. He told me he knew god had intended for us to meet that day and that…

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I Love You In Spite of Your Atheism

“I love you in spite of your atheism.” It’s a joke between me and my husband. But for a couple like us, who once gave god authority over our relationship, there is a whole lot of serious meaning in those words. We are not entirely in the same boat. Maybe we never have been. But,…

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A Level Playing Field

You may have noticed there is a rebellion brewing among those Christians in America who believe their faith is under attack. Every day there’s another story in the news about someone standing up for their Christian right to discriminate biblically or pray openly. Government and school officials across the country are taking a stand for…

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The Magic of Creation

When I was kid I spent a lot of time wandering the woods around my house. I would make up stories about who and where I was, usually involving some kind of epic fantasy adventure. I used to imagine I was looking for a magical secret world that could be found through a hidden door…

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Seek and You Shall Find Whatever You Want to Find

Seek and you shall find. This is the number one piece of advice you will hear if you confess your doubt to a Christian. I haven’t written much on the blog this week, but that doesn’t mean I haven’t been having the conversation. I believe there were at least eight separate attempts to save my…

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The Possibility Will Always Remain

Yes, it’s another one of these posts. You see, I have written myself over to a corner dominated by opinionated Christians and I am having a little bit of trouble getting myself back to the other side of the room. But I do like this discussion. And I appreciate the efforts of those who want to save me. After…

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The Tiniest Puzzle of Doubt

What made me change my mind?  Christians always want to know. Forget this blog where I regularly seek out new ways to put into words how faith escaped me. The short answer is that I simply allowed myself to doubt. I know that means nothing to the person who hasn’t experienced it; I can’t explain the freedom of doubt to…

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The Things We Must Tolerate

Today’s post was inspired by Ufuomaee, a Christian blogger I have had many online conversations with. I found one of her recent posts to be difficult to swallow, and since I felt too overwhelmed by mental arguments to respond, I simply let it go. But today I thought maybe I would write a post clarifying…

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Is God Stalking You?

Christians criticize atheists for talking about religion so much, but it affects all of us. And for those of us who devoted years of our lives to god before losing him? Well, we have more to say than most. We share our stories not only to reach out to others, but to keep explaining all…

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Maybe I’m Not the Enemy

If someone desperately wanted to agree with me and had spent years finding ways to support my point of view, I would like to think I would be more forgiving when they ultimately could not come to the same conclusion. But it doesn’t work that way, does it? Not with politics. Not with relationships. And…

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