Abandoning Christ in a Christ-Centered Marriage

If you had asked me on my wedding day, “What is the most important ingredient in a happy marriage?” I would not have hesitated. The answer would be god. At that time in my life I had no doubt that my marriage would last. Not because we were so in love, or because we were committed…

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There Is No Burden of Proof

In the war between atheists and theists, I am not interested in “burden of proof” discussions. Most atheists do not claim to know for a fact that god doesn’t exist, but many of them do enjoy arguing it with absolute certainty. They present their case as if they are participating in an evidence-based debate that someone could actually win. And I’ll admit, this…

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Existing Closer to God

Over and over again atheists receive the message from Christians that we simply do not exist. It seems like a poor starting point for constructive dialog, but the bible is always getting in the way of that. For some reason Christians find it easy to have unshakable faith in the bible’s ability to speak for…

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Losing the Unsaved

Losing god was a relief. Not at first- but when I was confident about where my mind and heart were on the matter, the heaviest weight was lifted. Sometimes we lose religion and sum it all up with god, but god comes with a lot of baggage. Losing god means losing a safety net. A…

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Don’t Lie and Tell Me You Believe in God

Dear Almost Every Christian I Have Known, Don’t tell me you love Jesus and then insult me. Don’t tell me you believe in Christian values and then fuck that girl you met at the bar. Don’t say you love your enemies and then verbally or physically insult them. Don’t gossip, give in to lustful desires,…

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An Interview With My Husband About Faith Part II

What made you decide to become a missionary? Jake, who was involved in Reachout with me. He went and did Arc the year ahead of me and he was a popular kid in my youth group who played guitar. He was one of the kids who played acoustic guitar during those youth group rallys. He…

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An Interview With My Husband About Faith Part I

My husband grew up in a conservative Christian home. He was the youngest of four children. His family’s level of conservatism has made them the subject of many jokes, and we have had our ups and downs. But he had a good home life. His parents loved their children and were actively involved in their…

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The Loss of Prayer

Why does god answer some prayers and not others? Why would a good and loving god allow so much pain and suffering to happen to good people when he could intervene? Atheists often like to point to this as a way of challenging Christians, but it’s no good. I am sure there are Christians who…

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Living on the Edge

I have followed a handful of stories concerning pastors who have lost faith. I read their blogs, listen to their podcast interviews, and I follow them on social media. I like their stories because they understand two polar opposite sides equally. They have a story I can relate to. And they are usually pretty good…

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Six Degrees from Satan

I remember exactly how it felt to believe in god completely. The girl I was then could never have seen what was coming. She would have hated knowing that a future without god awaited her. It would have meant failure. She had worked hard to build a firm foundation in faith. She had created a…

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Doubt and the Endless Possibilities

At first it was that one nagging thought. Religion is how mankind chooses to fill in the gaps where God has been unclear. That’s an awful lot of space to fill. What is the probability that one religion somehow managed to get all the answers right? Doubt has a bad reputation, but it is the…

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